PLIGHT OF PAKISTANI MOTHERS AND THEIR NEEDS

1: 92% of the Pakistani mothers are illiterate and unskilled.
She completely depends on the income of her husband or her elder son
(if she has) for the welfare of the family and fulfilling other personal
needs. And if her husband or any other person from the family earn
345$ annually and is the only earning person of a family, then how can their  medical, educational and other individual needs  be fulfilled. And in this critical situation the following problems occurs:

a)             From the total 149 million population of Pakistan, women are 83.44 million    56%.
b) The people living below the percentage of poor conditions are
67% of the total population.
c) Annual birth rate is 3.5%
d) The deaths occur in the period of pregnancy are at least 30
thousand annually.
e) During pregnancy period 38% mothers died due to lack of food.
f) During Pregnancy period, mothers die due to lack of medical
treatment are 62%
g) At the moment girls below the age of 15 years from the total
149 million populations, which will become mothers in future are
45.892 million. 

This women needs good nutritional packages, medical care and sound education.

By acquiring skills, this women can  assist their husbands in  the up-keep and welfare of the family . If both mothers and fathers are jointly involved in income generation  they will find a way to overcome the problems of disappointment and helplessness. Hence, they will be able to nourish their family better and nurture their children in a better way.

We also need to  think about  the 45.892 million girls from the total 149 million which will become mother in Future. So that these 45.892 million girls are not compelled to live a helpless life like their mothers .We must  work towards  providing  facilities for good education, empowering this new generation of mothers with good skills. 
        

PLANING FOR THE PAKISTANI  WOMEN/MOTHERS
 
According to my opinion if we want to plan for Pakistan or any
other developing country , we can  categorize women in three groups.

1:   The girls (below 15) which will become women or mothers in
future.

2:   The women, as mothers fulfilling their responsibilities.

3:   The women that were mothers or wives but now they are widows and
others ignored by their children and families. (These are 5.18
million from the total 149 million population of Pakistan.)

 

In Pakistan, there are four groups of families existing.

1:   First group belongs those family where the mother is in no way contributing to the financial needs of the family , where only the man earn the means for sustenance. The problems facing the women in this category of family are of different kinds.

2:   Second family is the group where the father and mother are jointly contributing to the welfare of the family.  And the women belonging to this group have different problems and needs.

3:   The third group is those where the Mother is the only source of income. In other words the women are earning to feed the family.  The needs and problems of women in this category are different.

4:   Fourthly, in this group neither the mother nor the father is working, maybe due to health or handicap situation. The women belonging to this group have different problems comparatively with above three groups.

 

 

PROSTITUTION, AGONY OF A PAKISTANI GIRL CHILD, INHUMANITY TO WOMEN 

 

Today, I am going to draw your attention towards a
majority;
 
100 million or 67% of the total 149 million people in Pakistan, who are in living in pitiable conditions. And the problems which the women are facing from the 67% are as follows:
 
1:   98% of these women are illiterate.
 
2:   From the total population of 149 million, 14.5
million women are those who spent their childhood and youth in their parent's home and still are with them in old age. Parents of these 14.5 million women are not able to marry their daughters due to poor condition. In Pakistan, when parents want to marry their daughters, parents of the men set some conditions that must be fulfilled at the time of marriage by the parents of the women. For example, the parents of the bride will have to give the furniture and other necessities for the home which is a hundred thousand rupees (Pakistani currency). More times than not, these parents are not able to fulfill the conditions of the bridegroom's parents.
 
3:  Often times, the beautiful girls of poor parents
are set to be sold to the wealthy. These men and their lustful appetites prey on these young innocent girls promising their parents that they will marry them.  But then, they do not honor their word. And because of the parent’s lack of resources are not able to take any legal step against these men.
 
4: The sex trade is a lucrative trade and a substantial portion involves young children. Beautiful girls are smuggled out of the country for different purposes and within the country also. These girls are trained from childhood for sexual servitude, highway robbery, deceit, theft etc. The girls who are deemed unattractive, after nourishing when these girls are 8 or 9 years old, these girls are placed with companies and individuals that use child labor. This is an organized business.  It’s more out in the open than one would think.  The sad part is this government is helpless and seems to be in no position to do anything on a governmental level.

 

5:   From 149 million population, 67% of the poor population which contains mothers, wives, sisters and daughters, due to lack of wisdom they are living with a status of servant. And the honor of that family even he is a father, elder brother or husband feel burden due to the existence of that women or girl in that family. And therefore she is oppressed and helpless due to her preservation.
 
6:   The poor men draw a veil on their unemployment to terrify the women in their families. And from them, they also take permanent money for their intoxication even whatever she will do, employment, theft, robbery, adultery or begging. And if she will not obey or fulfill the needs of their husbands, brothers or sons then they were treated badly. And she is helpless and unfortunately she would be under one's control. And if any women rebel or not obey then she might me killed and showed this incidence as a suicide.
 
7:   A man has authority that he will divorce whenever he wants and also has a right to keep three or four wives. Due to lack of resources divorced women are not able to take any legal step against her husband.
 
8:   Majority of the mothers, wives, sisters and daughters will not show herself (faces) to any outsider men without the permission of their father, husband, son or brother. And these women are living like prisoners in their own houses. This is a specific group which is bound by a women's veil.
 
In specific areas, women and girls were sold in concealed markets. Unconscionable men sold their mothers, wives, sisters and daughters to earn money. And the price will be decided on the beauty of the women or girls.
 
In many incidences, the poor parents sold their adult daughters and sisters to a 60 or 70 years old wealthy man and after the death of that man that young girl will spent her rest of life as a prostitute. The noble parents, for the sake of their fame and honor kill their daughters and sisters and show as it was a suicide.

 

9)  Women are often used to settle disputes between neighbors and are sold as a settlement to the argument.

 

10:  In some specific areas of Pakistan, there is also one rule. In Pakistani language we can call it "Karokari".

 

In this law if any person is caught doing any sexual oppression with any girl or woman or accept his crime then the authority holding  persons from that area will decide that a convicted person will also put up or present his wife, sister or daughter to that oppressed girl or woman family for sexual oppression. So that convicted person will also treated in the same way as that of oppressed woman, girl or that family or in simple words we can say "Tit for tat".
 
13:  Gang rape with poor and helpless girls is a part of everyday culture; almost a hobby for some.

 

14:  In some rich families, many incidences came in existence. In which the widows were killed because they are an honor and holding a wealthy property and bank balance. Some Widows are set into prison by the in-laws fabricating false accusations against them. Some accuse her of serious crimes thereby coveting all the riches from her innocent children. Mostly these things will be done by in-laws or from the mother's family of the widow.

 

And likewise many other ways are implemented to snatch the riches from the widows. For example, after the killing her they will present false evidence to portray that it is suicide or accident. Or accuse her of serious crime and sent her to jail. Or poisoning her with medications that will make her mentaly sick then sending her to the mental home where this virtue and innocent woman will have to stay in her whole life and die as heirless.

 

15:  Some religious rich families, instead of marrying their girl with man they marry her with their spiritual belief principles. In other words we can say that a girl is married with religious injunctions. This girls will be bound by that injuction for the rest of her life without marriage proving she has left worldly things as marriage and committed to the service of the beleif of the sect. Because the parents would not want to share the wealth which is the possession of the lady with other families. This lady being helpless can not prosecute this inhumanity.

 

And likewise the poor parents who are not able to marry their daughters and give dowry at the time of their marriage, will mostly marry their girls with a religious book. And mostly the girls disagreeing with this inhumanity most time take to prostitution.

 

 

SUGGESTIONS:

 

1:   We must advertise and introduce Sweet Mothers International in Pakistan through Radio, T.V and Newspapers so that the people of different status will have the knowledge of its goals and the indigent women will take benefit form it.

 

2:   By arranging the Seminars, Walks and other Awareness programs, we will be able to know the problems of mothers, sisters and daughters, living in Pakistan and by this we will able to solve their problems in an effective way.

 

3:   Free legal aid services from Sweet Mothers International for helpless and oppressed women.

 

4: Old homes for the heirless and old women.

 

5: During pregnancy period, free food and medical help for qualifying women.

 

6:   Institutes for illiterate mothers, sisters and daughters to help them in gaining literacy skills so that they will be able to feed their families in a right way. If the mother of any nation is literate, then she will be able to assist her nation in reaching its goals. For this we must arrange institutes in which we will educate girls as well as young ladies.

 

7: Pakistan's economical conditions are getting worst day by day and with education, we will overcome  poverty, helplessness, and disappointments. In order to facilitate this plan into action, we have to provide them facilities that teach the skills of handicraft, textile, designing, and computer education.  By providing this, not only will we help women, we will help Pakistani society to develope .

 

8: We pray that God will provide resources to construct institutes but if for the time being we are not able to do this, we may help the deserving girls and women who wish to gain education, by assisting them with study expenditures in the form of scholarships. In this way they will be able to get education as they are not in a position to get education on their own resources.

 

9: From the total population of Pakistan, 14.5 million women are those whose parents are not able to marry them and these women are spending their whole life with their parents. Because of this, the Pakistani Government is stepping forward and arranging collective marriages. In these marriages, they are set in those families in which the in-laws of the girls do not demand for dowry. After finding a best match the government will marry these couples. We must also think about these women and do something practical from the platform of Sweet Mothers International so that we will able to make them good mothers for the future.